You know what makes me happy? REALLY happy? Seeing my beautiful brides and handsome grooms gracing the pages of my fave ever magazines and blogs. It’s so nice to see all of the pretty details and sweet moments gathered together into a little love story for others to admire and share.
Ever since I got engaged myself in 2009, I have obsessed over pretty much everything that Style Me Pretty features. So to be a member of their exclusive little black book, and have my work published by them is a dream come true. Literally!
Recently they featured one of the most lovely weddings I’ve ever worked on, set in the Cotswolds was this intimate wedding inspired by the glamour of Great Gatsby. I honestly adored the bride, she is one of those girls you really want to be friends with. You know the ones?
Yup that’s right…. 10 reasons why you SHOULDN’T hire a wedding planner…. because although I am one, and I firmly believe that we are pretty much as close to fairy godmothers as you can get, it’s not always a given that you should hire one for your big day.
1. If your budget is seriously restricted. Think about it, if hiring a wedding planner means that 50% of your budget is now blown, that’s not leaving much room for other essential items like a decent venue. Or food.
2. If you are pretty much replicating your sisters (or other family member) wedding – same marquee at the family home, same suppliers, same timeline… etc. Especially if your parents are hosting and don’t mind running around in the final weeks and on the day itself. You might still want an on the day co-ordinator though, just to take off the pressure from Mum & Dad.
3. If you don’t actually want a wedding planner. That relationship is never going to work! You need to trust someone to do their job properly.
4. If you LOVE being organised, are creative, don’t have a full time job, or kids. Oh and you just happen to know who the best and most reliable suppliers in the industry are. Top tip: it’s not always those with the prettiest websites who appear at the top of Google.
5. If you have lots of friends who work in the wedding industry. Soak up their knowledge and take their advice (assuming they are good at their job!). Even then, who manages the day itself for you?
6. If you’re after a homespun, DIY, laid back, no traditions or schedules kinda wedding. Just remember, it’s the most well organised events that actually feel the most relaxed for those attending.
7. If you are thinking about booking a super cheap and inexperienced planner. Consider carefully and think of value rather than cost. Better to have no planner than a bad planner?!
8. If you have a seriously strong network of friends and family. A huge part of my job as a planner is acting as stand in BFF and counsellor, an impartial voice of reason who will never ever call you a bridezilla or not pick up your calls.
9. If you are very decisive and have a clear vision for your big day – with the help of the internet and some handy referrals then you are well on your way with planning. However you’ll also need to manage budgets, timelines and choose someone else as a point of contact for the day.
10. I actually can’t think of ten reasons NOT to hire a wedding planner. So I’m going to write another list of reasons why you SHOULD hire one next, I’ll try my very best to stick to just 10 on that one.
So I’m sitting here at 40 weeks pregnant (plus a few days!) waiting to welcome my second little bundle of joy into the world, and realised I hadn’t given you lovely readers a round up of what I’ve been busy with behind the scenes of Jessie Thomson HQ last month!
I also had two beautiful weddings at the start of August before I went on maternity leave, which I hope to share with you soon too.One a colourful barn wedding, and the other a classic marquee tent wedding.
Unique and special, in equal parts. But for now, here’s to an amazing July (and a little from the end of June)….!
I’ll be sharing behind the scenes pics from August and some official wedding photo’s and features coming very soon, possibly mixed with a few cute baby pics. I apologise in advance for the Instagram takeover!
Unless you’ve been hiding under a rock, I’m hoping by now you might have read a little bit about my new venture with Louise Beukes from b.loved – a brand new resource for suppliers and business owners in the wedding industry, Flourish & Prosper.
F&P came about because we spotted a small problem in our wonderful world of weddings – it’s completely unregulated, full of new business start ups (some incredible, some not so much), an industry growing hugely both in the UK and worldwide – and yet, there seemed to be very little out there for any of us to gather together, share best practices and know how, get advice on key activities required to make our businesses an even bigger success story.
Louise and I both left our corporate lives behind for a reason, but we’re ultimately also successful business women! So we decided to make a community where we offered all of the above (and SO much more), but in a stylish and fun environment that should go hand in hand with working within such a creative profession.
When we first founded this new business, we decided we really needed (ahem… yes needed!) to create a super pretty styled shoot to help launch our website and announce our plans to the world. With a host of amazing suppliers and the help of my lovely friend Ashlee from Taylor Barnes Photography we did just that! It was featured on Style Me Pretty soon afterwards, but I’ve yet to share the images here on the blog.
Well here you go, a little treat! If you are a wedding business (or if you have a friend in the industry) do make them aware of our first event – F&P The Wedding Academy – held in London on 1st November 2014. Leave a comment with your email below and I’ll send you a special Jessie Loves discount code for our shop too.
I’m so excited to announce ticket sales for the highly anticipated Flourish & Prosper: The Wedding Academy are now open! Together with my fellow biz partner in crime, Louise Beukes from b.loved, we have been busy behind the scenes over the past few months assembling a super duper incredible team of expert speakers, fabulous partners and stylish sponsors! We can’t wait to open the doors to our very first F&P event and meet lots of excited wedding pro’s looking to grow their businesses!
F&P: The Wedding Academy takes place on 1st November 2014, at Icetank Studios – a hidden gem in the heart of Covent Garden in London. We’ve got so much planned for the lucky 25 attendees who sign up, seriously this is one you really don’t want to miss!
My poor little blog has been a little quiet recently as I’ve had a super busy wedding season to take up my time, as well as getting everything planned for the first ever Flourish & Prosper event. Excited much? YES!
I’m also prepping the house for baby number two, due to arrive at the end of August. So hard to resist buying every single cute item of baby clothes that catches my eye on pinterest. Just seven more weddings and a spa date to go before I have a little time off.
Anyway, I thought it might be nice to give you a bit of a visual round up of what I’ve been doing behind the scenes at Jessie Thomson HQ since I last gave you an update in May.
Since my last update I’ve had three weddings and a tea ceremony, lots of travel around the Cotswolds and the UK, many itineraries and schedules created and sent out, smelled beautiful florals, eaten delicious macarons and mallows, and enjoyed plenty of toddler snuggles in between.
I’ve had the most wonderful start to May 2014, two beautiful and totally different weddings, an inspiring workshop with those talented ladies at Illuminated Collective. A trio of incredible fine art photographers who have collaborated to help bring their work to a wider audience, inspiring others along the way!
Some of you may follow me on Instagram already, but I thought I’d give you a little round up of images from behind the scenes of my month so far… and with two more weddings to go this weekend, it’s set to stay exciting!
Hope everyone is looking forward to a lovely weekend of weddings or relaxing!
Well wedding season is truly underway! After a nice break and some weekends to myself after the last wedding in January, I’m just getting back into the swing of things and enjoyed two fabulous and very different celebrations over the last few weeks.
One involved a 13 hour day and 9.5 hours of driving. Yikes! It was an amazing woodland forest inspired wedding with a nod to Shakspeare and the Cornish sea. Plus the most amazing first dance ever! The other was a classic country wedding in a Cotswolds manor house, a beautiful bright sunny day with the cutest of teeny flower girls.
Be sure to follow me on Facebook and Instagram if you want to check out a few behind the scenes photo’s before anyone else!
Today though I wanted to write a quick post on when you might want to suggest to a bride that they should hire a wedding planner.
This isn’t just a post for desperate Mum’s of brides and well wishing bridesmaids, it’s also (I hope) helpful for any suppliers who find that their clients might be in need of a little extra support.
There are some tell tale signs that a couple might benefit from hiring an independent wedding planner:
1. The bride or groom appear to be getting easily stressedor feeling overwhelmed by the planning or design process.
2. The bride or groom both work long hours, have a career that takes precedent or who just aren’t that interested in planning a wedding beyond picking a date.
3. Frequent emails/calls/texts in a panic about the smallest of problems – wedding planning is rarely a smooth process, and having an independent and objective planner you trust can alleviate those nerves.
4. Problematic or challenging family members – this is almost always Mother’s, I hate to say. It usually stems from a positive place but can be stressful when emotions are running high. Sometimes giving a neutral 3rd party control over supplier communication can avoid any serious dramas!
5. When the venue is far away – having someone on the ground, who knows the venue and area well, is invaluable. If someone is planning a destination wedding, they should really hire a planner.
6. A strong desire to have a beautifully styled wedding, but no natural ability to create an imaginative design concept. Here hiring an event designer or stylist is worth it’s weight in gold!
7. When planning a marquee wedding or venue without an in house co-ordinator. Although once again I want to remind you that in house wedding venue co-ordinators are not one and the same as as an independent wedding planner. Read this article for more info.
I talk about this with a lot of friends and suppliers, and the question of tact is almost always brought up when I mention referrals. No one wants to appear rude or like they don’t care about their client or friend. So here are a few ways you can gently suggest a wedding planner might be handy..
“Do you know who will be in charge of your wedding day timings and logistics yet?“
“Have you thought about hiring a professional to help pull everything together and recommend reliable suppliers?“
“Do you think you might benefit from a little extra support from an independent wedding planner?“
Or even very simply… “have you hired your wedding planner yet?“.
Let’s make it the norm people!
If this suggestion isn’t met with shock or horror, then now is the time to recommend your own wedding planner or, if you’re another wedding supplier then you can list any you like working alongside. Remember, as a wedding professional it shows you in a positive light when referring trustworthy suppliers.
It may well be worth reiterating the value that us wedding planners add to the overall experience too.It’s not just about timelines and schedules, it’s about creating a wedding that truly reflects a couples personality and allowing them the freedom to actually enjoy the planning process.
On the flip side, there are a few warning signs when not to hire a wedding planner….
1. They have a really tight budget. This couple may be able to afford an “on the day co-ordinator” but it’s unlikely you can afford the full service. Yes, yes, we can save you time and money. However it’s often not enough when you’re working with a £5k budget and 200 guests!
2. The parents are paying and they don’t want a planner. Let me tell you, nothing makes a wedding planner’s job harder than trying to please multiple parties with a vested interest, who aren’t the client. If those parties aren’t willing to trust an independent planner to do their job properly, then having one may well only result in more conflict. It’s also a very good reason to hire one (!), but in that case it’s essential the planner meets the parents and brings them on board upfront, and occasionally the couple may need to remind Mum & Dad that the planner’s professional opinion takes precedent.
3. The bride is a control freak. I get it, so am I. Most planners will work closely with a couple and don’t try to take over the planning process completely. They just take the stress out by suggesting appropriate suppliers and managing more boring admin. However if you’re going to question the planner’s activities daily and send thousands of emails between meetings, you’re not really making good use of that supplier! If this particular friend/client has the time and the inclination to plan a wedding from start to finish… let them! They might still benefit from partial planning to help manage the final few weeks and the day itself though.
Are there any couples reading this who wished someone had suggested they hire a planner for their own big day? Anyone who wished they’d suggested hiring one as they ended up being the co-ordinator/counsellor throughout a friend’s wedding?
I hope everyone had a lovely Easter break? I’m in full on wedding season mode now, but wanted to share a beauty of a wedding with you!
When I first visited this beautiful family home in the Cotswolds, I felt instantly happy. It was a beautiful day and everyone was gathered to talk about wedding plans excitedly, I left with a box of freshly laid eggs and a big smile. Such a lovely place to live.
This marquee wedding that I worked on last year was true to the location, full of sweet personal touches, real ale, and a relaxed vibe which made guests feel at ease amongst the hay bales. Never let a bit of rustic charm put off a bride from choosing the finer things in life though… Suzanne Neville gown, Hermione Harbutt headpiece and Vivienne Westwood heels… yes please!
I arrived on the morning of the wedding to an excited family merrily drinking champagne and getting ready for the big day. After adding finishing touches to the set up, including a few DIY flowers, I headed over to see the bride and her girls getting ready. Loved the mismatched Twobirds Bridesmaid dresses!
Once I was confident everyone in the bridal party was happy, I zipped over to the church where the groom awaited nervously! Actually that’s a lie, he was pretty laid back and enjoying himself at this stage. More excited than nervous.
After the ceremony, the bride and groom led their guests on a lovely little country walk across a pretty field to their marquee site, where I was ready with the catering team to hand out bubbly and cold drinks… it was a scorcher!
The marquee was dressed with colourful lanterns, country flowers and sweet egg cup favours – each guest had their own little personal note from the happy couple. Such a lovely touch.
I was also super impressed with the DIY wedding cake efforts, nice to have a talented sister and bridesmaid on board eh?
I love it when brides make speeches, and this one was absolutely brilliant! Followed by much dancing and merriment, including some fun on hay bales…
With huge thanks to BMC Weddings for capturing all of the magic, including these stunners…
You can also get your tissues ready for this gorgeous film preview from Simon Clarke too…
I’ve been itching to share images from this wedding with you for ages! It was featured on Rock My Wedding a few weeks back and had a HUGE response from readers.
I am hugely grateful to Camera Hannah for being an absolute champion and getting all these amazing shots, as well as creating a super special wedding film which you can see at the end. Took me ages to choose my fave images… so many.
I was first contacted by this incredibly cool bride back in the Spring of 2012, and I liked her immediately! This was a couple who wanted a wedding that was more like a party, they wanted to make it personal and they wanted to make it awesome. There were a few drawbacks… a not so massive budget, a groom who liked to party on through the night, a requirement to have all of it outside despite the UK’s tendency to tip it down at most inconvenient times, and a large number of guests flying over from the US! It was certainly going to be a challenge, but I was excited, and they needed my help. What could I say?
Over the next year and a half I became a huge part of “Team Jones” and their crazy wonderful wedding vision. From finding the right venue (I have never seen such a long shortlist as the one first presented to me!), to sourcing every single supplier, advising on timings and budgeting, and everything in between… we ended up creating this incredible day.
As with most couples on a tight budget, there was a serious amount of DIY effort put into the decor, but two creative minds are evidently unstoppable! It helped that we had some amazing suppliers on site who really understood the vision too, as well as a host of wonderfully supportive friends and family to volunteer their services in the final few days. I loved the little community that was formed at the wedding site all weekend, it made everything feel so much more special.
I had THE BEST time at this wedding. I know, I was working, but it honestly didn’t feel like work once the party got started. Oh and I got to walk around a fire maze with “Ring of Fire” being played at the same time by the headline act. Career highlight, for sure.
I hope you enjoy the photo’s as much as everyone enjoyed the day. Remember, don’t be afraid to get your dream wedding. Anything is possible, especially when you have a wedding planner.
Do take a look at this wedding film by Camera Hannah too. It’s beautiful, and really gives you more of an insider view of the day. She’s so darn clever!